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How Alexander the Great's daddy issues reshaped the world

How Alexander the Great's daddy issues reshaped the world

Alexander the Great’s childhood has often been presented as a time of conflict between his parents, Philip II and Olympias. But this image, so often explored in novels and films, is likely exaggerated. Most of the sources preserved from this period are Athenian; no Macedonian writings have survived. So it was Philip’s enemies, with their subjective and even manipulated accounts, who shaped what we know about the intricacies of the Macedonian court. Nevertheless, dynastic tensions evidently ran high at the court of Philip, and one factor that had an impact on family relations was the practice of polygamy.

Marriage in Macedonia was a politically oriented institution, often used to establish diplomatic relations or ensure royal succession. Philip had seven wives but among them they bore him only two sons: Philip III Arrhidaeus and Alexander. Some sources say there was a third, Caranus, who may have died in childhood, although his existence is doubtful.

The lack of a clear system for royal succession and the multitude of wives without any formal hierarchy increased conflict at court. Becoming the best candidate to inherit the throne depended on several factors. Foremost was to be a member of the Argead dynasty, descended from Perdiccas I, who founded the kingdom of Macedonia in the seventh century B.C. Until Alexander’s death, all the kings of Macedonia had come from this family.

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A second determining factor was the political prestige and importance of the maternal family. If the mother belonged to Macedonian nobility, support for an heir among the local aristocracy would be stronger. The sons of foreign women, such as Olympias, who came from Epirus, had in principle, less legitimacy. A third factor was the support a potential heir could muster among different factions within the kingdom.

This was key to ensuring political stability. Although the final decision rested with the monarch, his wives had a role in placing their male offspring in the race for succession. In this context, Alexander had a relatively straightforward path to power. His older half-brother Arrhidaeus was mentally incapacitated. Some sources attribute this to Olympias poisoning him in order to remove him as a candidate for the throne. Alexander, meanwhile, was brought up in a manner befitting a Macedonian prince. His training combined traditional disciplines such as grammar, rhetoric, arithmetic, and geometry with physical activities like hunting and battle training. The most notable of his teachers was Aristotle, to whom Philip entrusted the education of his son for three years.

The Shrine of the Nymphs of Mieza in northern Greece.
The Shrine of the Nymphs of Mieza, where Aristotle taught the young Alexander, lies near the modern-day city of Naousa, in northern Greece.ALAMY/CORDON PRESS

Smooth sailing, at first

While very young, Alexander was able to put into practice the solid education that his father had so carefully designed. Around 340 B.C., during one of Philip’s numerous absences, Alexander had to act as regent at barely 16 years old. The sources describe how he led a successful campaign against the Thracian tribe of the Maedi and went on to establish a military settlement he called Alexandroupolis Maedica, the first of many cities he would found and name after himself. His promising career continued with the Battle of Chaeronea.

Olympias, "perfidious" or maligned?

An engraving perhaps depicting Olympias and Alexander, whose helmet features a snake.
Gonzaga Cameo, perhaps depicting Olympias and Alexander, whose helmet features a snake. Third century B.C., Hermitage Museum, Russia.ALAMY/CORDON PRESS
THE SOURCES DEPICT Olympias as vengeful and ruthless. However, these accounts should be read critically. The author Plutarch, who lived centuries after her, influenced this extreme characterization and is known for misogynistic accounts and often fabricated anecdotes. Plutarch recorded the infamous story in which Philip finds his wife, Olympias, asleep in bed with a serpent beside her. Perhaps fearing that she is an enchantress, Philip loses interest in her.

The couple would later become yet more estranged after the clash between Alexander and Philip on the eve of Philip’s wedding with Cleopatra. Olympias accompanied her son into exile and, according to the third-century A.D. Roman historian Justin, tried to conspire against her husband from Epirus. Some sources depict Olympias as the brains behind the plot to kill Philip and the subsequent brutality to Philip’s seventh wife Cleopatra. It is likely that behind the larger-than-life vengefulness attributed to her, a skillful political operator was at work.

His father assigned him to lead the left wing of the Macedonian army to disrupt the advance of the Sacred Band of Thebes. After the victory, it was Alexander who, in the company of the general Antipater, took charge of the subsequent negotiation in Athens—a precursor to the League of Corinth, a coalition of Greek city-states under Philip. The young prince was already shaping up to be a worthy successor to his father.

It seems that up until this moment, Philip, Olympias, and Alexander had a reasonably good relationship. In fact, after the victory of Chaeronea, Philip had a symbolic monument, the Philippeion, built to celebrate the triumph of the Argead dynasty over the Greeks. The circular stone building includes statues of Philip, his parents, Amyntas III and Eurydice I, Alexander, and Olympias. To include a statue of Alexander here was a clear indication that Philip had singled Alexander out as heir to the throne.

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Alexander, victorious at Chaeronea

A monument depicting a lion that was erected over the mass grave of the members of the Sacred Band of Thebes.
THE LION OF CHAERONEAThis monument was erected over the mass grave of the members of the Sacred Band of Thebes, massacred in the charge that Alexander led in 338 B.C., when he was only 18.ALAMY/CORDON PRESS
IN THE SUMMER OF 338 B.C.,near the city of Chaeronea, a decisive battle took place between the Macedonian forces and the combined troops of Athens, Thebes, and other Greek cities that opposed Philip’s expansionism. Philip, leading the right wing of his army, feigned a retreat that tricked the enemy into opening their ranks. Alexander, in command of the left wing, took advantage to charge against the most powerful enemy unit: the elite corps known as the Sacred Band of Thebes. This unit was formed of 150 pairs of same-sex lovers; most of them perished in the fighting. After the battle, Alexander, who was then just 18 years old, demonstrated his political acumen in addition to his military prowess. Philip sent him to Athens to sign a peace agreement, and Alexander took with him 2,000 freed Athenian prisoners and the ashes of another 1,000 fallen that he delivered to the city. The dramatic gesture, calculated to diminish Athenian humiliation, was well received.

The first clash

Shortly after erecting the lavish tribute, Philip made a controversial decision: to marry a young woman from the Macedonian aristocracy called Cleopatra. To date, none of Philip’s wives had been Macedonian: Audata was Illyrian, Phila was from Elimea, Philinna and Nicesipolis were from Thessaly, Olympias (Alexander’s mother) was a princess of Epirus, and the sixth, Meda, was of Thracian origin. With Cleopatra it was different; Greek writer Athenaeus, notes that Philip was “violently in love” with her.

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Alexander riding Bucephalus, the horse he rode in all his campaigns until Bucephalus’s death at Hydaspes, in 326 B.C. This Roman sculpture is based on a fourth-century b.c. original by Lysippus.SCALA, FLORENCE

But, as in previous marriages, there was likely a political purpose too. Earlier Philip had shown no interest in marrying into to the Macedonian nobility, but now he considered it necessary in order to garner support before beginning his invasion of Persia. Cleopatra was the niece of Attalus, one of the generals who was to lead the offensive, so this link was key. The decision to marry Cleopatra provoked unease in Alexander’s circle, since any future male descendant could jeopardize his succession.

A structure with columns located in the Temple Zeus at Olympia.
Philip built this for the glory of the Argead dynasty, after its decisive victory over Athens and Thebes at Chaeronea in 338 b.c. It is located in the Temple Zeus at Olympia, one of the most important Greek sanctuaries.ACI

The situation exploded during a banquet on the eve of Philip and Cleopatra’s wedding. Attalus, Cleopatra’s uncle, took advantage of the toast to proclaim his desire for Cleopatra to ensure “a legitimate heir” for the kingdom. Alexander, who interpreted the statement as a personal attack, lashed out and was publicly reprimanded by Philip, who was perhaps compelled by the norms of hospitality. After this serious disagreement, Alexander went into exile with his mother Olympias, and possibly with his closest friends. First he took refuge at the court of his uncle, Alexander of Epirus, and then he was able to stay with Langarus, king of the Agrianians.

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The banquet that set father against son

An 88-pound Derveni Krater made in the early fourth century B.C.
ALCOHOL IN ABUNDANCEThis 88-pound Derveni Krater, discovered in a tomb, was made in the early fourth century B.C. Most kraters were used at banquets for mixing undiluted wine with water that was then served to guests.ALBUM
PLUTARCHrecounts the clash between Alexander and Philip during the banquet marking Philip’s marriage to Cleopatra: “Attalus, now, was the girl’s uncle, and called upon the Macedonians to ask of the gods that from Philip and Cleopatra there might be born a legitimate successor... Alexander was exasperated [and cried]... ‘Do you take me for a bastard?’ [and] threw a cup at him. Then Philip rose up against [Alexander], but, fortunately for both, his anger and his wine made him trip and fall. Then Alexander, mocking over him, said: ‘Look now, men! Here is one who was preparing to cross from Europe into Asia [alluding to the invasion of Persia]; and [he has fallen] in trying to cross from couch to couch’.”

The second confrontation

It’s possible that there were other reasons behind Alexander’s exile. It’s been suggested that Philip wanted to leave Alexander in charge of Greek affairs during the invasion and that his son had not taken well to this important but secondary role. Whatever the true reasons for the exile, Philip knew he couldn’t venture into Asia before putting his own house in order, so he opened the way for Alexander to return.

An illustration recreating the city of Halicarnassus, today in western Türkiye.
The illustration recreates the city of Halicarnassus, today in western Türkiye (Turkey). Philip attempted to marry his eldest son, the disabled Philip III Arrhidaeus, to the daughter of the Persian-allied ruler of Halicarnassus, Pixodarus. Fearing an erosion of his status, Alexander sabotaged the match.BALAGE BALOGH/SCALA, FLORENCE

Peace was short-lived, however, according to a somewhat confusing account from Plutarch about what happened next: the so-called Pixodarus affair. Although its chronology and veracity are doubtful, the affair points to a growing distrust of Alexander toward his father. According to Plutarch, Philip, eager to establish a foothold in Asia, had arranged to marry his son Arrhidaeus to the daughter of the Persian satrap Pixodarus. Alexander, wary that this marriage would relegate him to second place, interfered in the negotiations by putting himself forward as a potential husband. The interference ruined his father’s plans, and he meddled in something that was the exclusive prerogative of the king: to broker marriages for members of the dynasty.

Some researchers have suggested that Philip intended to follow a Macedonian custom and arrange the marriage of his last wife (Cleopatra) to his son (Alexander). This would have sent a clear signal that Philip was passing his kingdom to Alexander and may be why Philip had not thought of Alexander as a suitor.

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An unexpected death

Soon after, Philip was assassinated in Aigai while celebrating the wedding of his daughter, also named Cleopatra, to her uncle Alexander of Epirus, brother of Olympias. The assassin, Pausanias, was a member of the king’s guard. Some accounts state he committed the assassination in revenge, feeling spurned by Philip, whom he loved.

Mosaics at the ruins of the royal palace of Aigai.
Magnificent mosaics still amaze visitors to the ruins of the royal palace of Aigai, in modern-day Vergína, where Philip II was assassinated by a bodyguard in 336 b.c.ADOBE STOCK

What is certain are the consequences of the attack. Alexander was proclaimed king by the army. He eliminated any rivals who could overshadow him, a customary practice to avoid sources of instability. The purge was far-reaching: from Attalus, prominent in Asia, to Amyntas IV, Philip’s nephew who had reigned briefly while still a child, with Philip acting as regent. For her part, Olympias (according to the historian Justin) killed Europa, Cleopatra’s daughter, and then forced Cleopatra to hang herself in front of her little girl’s corpse.

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The facade of the royal necropolis at the site of Aigai.
The facade of the royal necropolis at the site of Aigai, attributed to Philip II, was found intact, with splendid grave goods, by the archaeologist Manolis Andronikos in 1977.GETTY IMAGES
ACCORDING TO ANCIENT SOURCES,Pausanias murdered Philip out of revenge. Pausanias was thought to be the king’s former lover, and was jealous of his new relationship with an attendant. After a quarrel between Pausanias and the new lover, the attendant died by suicide. To punish Pausanias for causing the suicide of a friend, Attalus brought in servants to rape him. Pausanias denounced Attalus to Philip, but the king took no action against Attalus, who was his wife Cleopatra’s uncle.

But did Pausanias act alone? Historians Plutarch and Justin suggest that the instigator was Olympias, as revenge for being spurned by Philip when he married Cleopatra. It would have been in Alexander’s interests
to ensure his father didn’t have children with Cleopatra, since they would challenge his claim to the throne. Second-century historian Arrian attributes the plot to the Persians, in a bid to stop Philip’s planned invasion. Other suspects include Demosthenes (leader of the Athenian resistance); certain nobles of Upper Macedonia; or the Macedonian general Antipater. The incident remains a great historical whodunit.

With the way clear and rivals purged, Alexander ascended the throne. It’s hard to gauge how close father and son had truly been but Alexander’s achievements and rise to greatness should be seen in the context of his relationship with Philip.

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Alexander's love-hate relationship

An engraving of Alexander confronting the mutinous soldiers at the Opis River.
Alexander confronts the mutinous soldiers at the Opis River. There he reproached them for their conduct, reminding them that, thanks to Philip, they had gone from living in poverty to being the conquerors of Asia. Engraving from the 19th century.MARY EVANS/ACI
WHEN ALEXANDER’S TROOPSmutinied at the Opis River in 324 B.C., he made a speech emphasizing the important role his father had played: “He [Philip] found you wandering about without resources, ... pasturing small flocks in the mountains, [defending them against] the Illyrians, Triballians and neighboring Thracians. He gave you cloaks to wear instead of sheepskins, brought you down from the mountains to the plains, and made you a match in war for the neighboring barbarians ... He made you city dwellers and civilized you with good laws and customs.”

This speech contrasts with the episode some years earlier, when Alexander killed one of his generals, Cleitus the Black, during a banquet. According to first-century Roman historian Quintus Curtius Rufus, Alexander drunkenly boasted that the victory at the Battle of Chaeronea was down to him, but his father had jealously detracted from his glory. Alexander claimed that Philip, wounded on the battlefield, had feigned death and that he had shielded his father’s body from attack. Incensed at this slur on the honor of Philip, Cleitus angrily challenged Alexander, who took up a lance and ran him through.

An engraving of Alexander killing Cleitus the Black in 328 B.C.
Alexander kills Cleitus the Black in 328 B.C., during a banquet in Samarkand. Cleitus was an officer and the brother of the king’s nurse, Lanice. He had saved Alexander’s life at the Battle of Granicus. Engraving from the 19th century.AKG/ALBUM

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